Let’s talk about the power of the people you surround yourself with.
If you’re feeling stuck in your career, the secret to breaking free might not be another project or promotion—it could be building relationships with the right people.
Here’s why this works:
- You gain fresh insights from those with different experiences.
- You get constructive feedback that challenges you to improve.
- You discover opportunities you didn’t know existed.
The last thing you want is to stay in your comfort zone, missing out on life-changing growth.
Let me share a 5-step approach to creating a network of people who will inspire you and push you forward.
Step #1: Identify People Who Make You Think Bigger
Think about individuals who inspire you to aim higher. They might be:
- Leaders or mentors in your industry.
- Authors or creators whose work resonates with you.
- Friends or colleagues who challenge you to grow.
Start by reading their books, following them on social media, or sharing their work. These small actions build a foundation for meaningful connections.
Example: I connected with the author of Think Fast and Talk Smart by reading the book, sharing my thoughts online, and supporting their work. That connection eventually opened up new doors to me working with publishing companies.
Step #2: Don’t Be Afraid to Reach Out
Great relationships often begin because someone took the first step.
Send a thoughtful message, attend an event, or comment on their posts. Be clear about why you admire them and what you hope to learn.
Here’s the truth: not everyone will reply. But that’s okay—sometimes, just one meaningful connection can change your trajectory.
Example: I once emailed a senior leader after reading their article, explaining how their insights impacted my work and sharing the exact steps I took in a PowerPoint format. Not only did they reply, but we ended up meeting for coffee. That one conversation gave me valuable insights into how CROs view AI in Sales functions, helping me future-proof my career.
Step #3: Mix Internal and External Connections
While mentors within your organization can guide you on company dynamics, external connections often offer fresh perspectives and new opportunities. Aim for a mix of both.
Internal mentors help you grow within your role, while external ones can open doors to new industries or ways of thinking.
Example: When I was working in consumer electronics, I attended startup events and networked with people outside my field. This led to an opportunity in cybersecurity tech sales, and I tripled my income in just 12 months.
Step #4: Give More Than You Take
Relationships thrive when you focus on offering value. Share helpful insights, offer to assist with a project, or simply show up when they need support.
Remember the give-to-ask ratio: for every favor you ask, give 3-4 times first. It’s not a shortcut—it’s about building trust and showing you care.
Example: I once volunteered to review a mentor’s book draft. It only took a few hours, but that gesture deepened our connection. In the process, I gained valuable insight into what it takes to write, promote, and publish a book.
Step #5: Have Open Conversations About Big Questions
Sometimes, the best insights come from discussing broader life questions, like:
- What’s my next step?
- What’s holding me back?
- How can I make a bigger impact?
Be open-minded—you might be surprised by the ideas that surface.
Example: In 2020, during a casual Zoom chat with my mentor, they suggested I start posting content online. At the time, I wasn’t sure, but I gave it a shot. That advice completely transformed my life, opening doors I didn’t even know existed.
Final Thoughts
Surrounding yourself with people who push and inspire you isn’t just about growing your career—it’s about building a life that feels meaningful and exciting.
Here’s your action plan for this week:
- Identify 1-2 people who inspire you.
- Reach out with a thoughtful message.
- Offer value and start building the relationship.
The right people can help you see your potential, think bigger, and achieve more.
Let’s make this week the one where you take the first step!
Until next time - Gaurav